In this video I share about a struggle I am having with setting boundaries around my work and personal time while working from home and being my own boss.
*Please forgive me, the top of my head is cut off in this video. I am still getting used to using my mac book for shooting video, and was so wrapped up in what I would say that I neglected to notice the cropping issue.
I have struggled accepting I have done enough when it is time to stop working. As a result I have often found myself squeezing in just one more thing, ..taking up many more minutes-sometimes hours in the evenings.The past year or so, I have worked hard to set boundaries around my work hours, doing my best to wrap up work right before Trey gets home from school, even though I don’t feel I have done “enough”. In general I would say I have made great progress in setting and respecting these boundaries, yet I still find times when I fall back into this pattern and need to pull myself out of it. The past month I found myself on the computer night after night, and it just hasn’t felt good.
So, the past week or so I have been working on not getting on the computer at night. I feel more balanced but also a bit more driven to get a lot done during the time I am working. I regularly hit the ground running each day, and love my work.
Every once in a blue moon, I find myself needing to rest during the day, and instead of seeing it for what it is, a fear sets in that I have suddenly become lazy.
The past two days I have felt wiped out and a burning need to rest. This past week I was out of town from early Wed morning until Thursday evening. Friday was unpack and repacking. Saturday I was out of the house at 6am and then Sunday I was out of the house by 7am- for a full day shoot in Boston-arriving home at 8pm.
I have the time to rest, yet I can’t seem to let go of the long to-do list of projects I have in my head. .Yesterday I felt like a sloth, because I took 3 hours to lay in bed, take a nap and read with Trey, despite working from 9-noon getting a slideshow up for my clients I photographed Sunday, going to the gym, grocery shopping, making dinner, cleaning up around the house . I feel guilty because I didn’t get “enough” work done.
Looking at it-rarely do I feel get “enough” done. Maybe if I learn to define what is enough, I will have the ability to feel satisfied.
I woke up today still feeling exhausted, with the start of a sore throat, and an ache to rest. I am fighting rest, and it is counterproductive. I am not functioning at 100% so it makes sense that resting will help me rejuvenate. Where does this fear come from that if I rest, I won’t ever want to work again?
Doing this video and writing this post has helped me see this is a bit ridiculous. I am going to force myself to take a nap, heck I may even watch an episode of Downtown Abby on demand. I know my body needs it. My to do list is just going to have to wait.
I would love to hear your experience with setting work boundaries. Do you have a good gauge on what is enough?